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Developing a balanced and a mature personality is one of the main goals of adolescence.

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In order to do that, it is essential that we learn emotional skills.

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The American psychologist Daniel Goleman talked about emotional intelligence in order to explain this.

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I'm sure that you know some people that are very clever with mathematics but are not very good at

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making friends this person has a lot of mathematical intelligence lacks emotional intelligence so what

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is emotional intelligence emotional intelligence is the ability to know what you feel and what

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other people feel, and the ability to manage your own emotions in a positive way. It is extremely

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important in order to have a good relationship with other people. So one very basic objective

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of the period of life you are experiencing now is that you develop a good emotional intelligence.

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Daniel Goleman identified five different elements that form part of emotional intelligence.

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The first one is self-awareness, which means being able to identify what you feel and being able to express it.

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The second one is self-control.

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This means the ability to control what you do with your feelings.

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Of course, you cannot control what you feel.

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You cannot decide if you're angry or if you're happy, but you can control what you do when you experience these feelings.

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That's what we call self-control.

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The third element is self-motivation.

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Self-motivation is the ability to find reasons in order to persist doing what we do to achieve our goals.

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I'll give you an example.

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some students find it hard to study they don't like it very much but then they

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think how important it is for them to have a certificate or to find a good job

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in the future so they find reasons to continue studying even if they don't

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like it very much these students can motivate themselves to find reasons to

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continue to persist studying. The fourth element Goldman talks about is empathy. Empathy is the

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ability to place yourself in the other person's position, or as we say in English, on the other

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person's shoes. If you can place yourself in the other person's position, you can imagine how he

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or she feels and what he or she needs, and that is extremely important in order to have a good

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relationship with them. Finally, the last element Goldman talks about is the ability to develop

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interpersonal skills. What are interpersonal skills? Interpersonal skills are the abilities

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that help us to have a good relationship with others. For example, a very important interpersonal

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personal skill is the ability to ask someone a favor, or to apologize when we make a mistake,

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or to coordinate a group, or to solve conflicts using dialogue.

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These five elements are extremely important in order to develop your emotional intelligence.